Affirmations:
Affirmations are focused, intentional statements that help rewire the way we think and feel. They’re powerful tools for shifting energy, training our minds, and opening up new possibilities. We use them to redirect our focus and create emotional momentum toward the reality we’re building.
But honestly, sometimes doing affirmations feels wrong, like we’re lying to ourselves!
When Affirmations Feel Like a Lie
“There are some affirmations I’m doing that I’m not connecting with… something deep in me says, ‘No ma’am. That’s just not true.’”
Law Of Attraction gurus rarely mention this part of the process. If you’re actually sick, then telling yourself that you’re well can feel contradictory. For some people, this becomes a major obstacle in their practice of using affirmations. Something in them will not allow them to carry on because it feels like a lie.
It’s like putting a fresh coat of paint on a cracked wall and wondering why the room still doesn’t feel right.
The truth is: sometimes we’re trying to leap too far, too fast. If your current emotional state is deep in survival mode, an affirmation like “I am thriving and abundant” doesn’t land. And it can cause more frustration, because now you’re trying to believe something your body is literally rejecting.
The Power of Neutral: Building a Bridge
This is where neutral affirmations come in.
You don’t have to jump from negative to positive.
I found that when this happens to me, the wisest move is to go from negative to neutral—and let the energy settle there until my system is ready to climb higher.
Instead of:
“I am wildly successful and free.”
Try:
- “I’m learning what freedom feels like.”
- “I’m open to being successful”
- “I’m willing to let ease find me in small ways.”
These aren’t cop-outs. They’re stepping stones.
Neutral is the bridge.
When you're dealing with core beliefs or long-held emotional blocks, you can't strong-arm your way into a new state. You seduce your way into it. Gently. Repeatedly. With softness, patience, and truth that your whole being can actually receive.
Affirmation Check-In: Are Yours Still Aligned?
One more thing that doesn’t get talked about enough—update your affirmations as you evolve!
If you’ve been affirming healing, and you’ve turned the corner in your recovery, you don’t want to keep saying:
- “I am healing.”
- “My body comes into agreement with restoration.”
Why?
Because those affirmations still signal that you’re in process.
And if you’ve already stepped out of the “healing” phase and into the restored phase, your affirmations should reflect that.
Try something like:
- “I enjoy vibrant health every day.”
- “My body moves with ease, strength, and joy.”
- “I wake up filled with energy, power, and peace.”
These are what I call legacy affirmations—statements that affirm your arrival, not just your journey. They lock in what you’ve reclaimed.
So whether you’re healing, building, resting, or blooming, take time to make sure your affirmations are current. This way you stay moving forward and avoid the space where it feels like you’ve stalled out or plateaued.
If you find yourself, conflicted about making statements that you fundamentally feel aren’t true, then try finding the emotional truth you can honestly stand on today.