Do Your Affirmations Feel Like Lies?

 

Affirmations:

Affirmations are focused, intentional statements that help rewire the way we think and feel. They’re not magic spells—but they are powerful tools for shifting energy, training our minds, and opening up new possibilities. We use them to redirect our focus and create emotional momentum toward the reality we’re building.

But let’s talk about something real for a minute.

Sometimes affirmations don’t work—and it’s not because you’re doing them wrong.
It’s because you’re not lying to yourself anymore.

When Affirmations Feel Like a Lie

“There are some affirmations I’m doing that I’m not connecting with… not because I don’t believe they can happen, but because something deep in me says, ‘No ma’am. That’s just not true.’”

Yes. That’s real.

And that’s where affirmation abuse happens—when we try to slap a shiny sticker over something our nervous system is not ready to believe.

It’s like putting a fresh coat of paint on a cracked wall and wondering why the room still doesn’t feel right.

The truth is: sometimes we’re trying to leap too far, too fast. If your current emotional state is deep in survival mode, an affirmation like “I am thriving and abundant” doesn’t land. It clangs. It ricochets. And it can even cause more frustration, because now you’re trying to believe something your body is literally rejecting.

The Power of Neutral: Building a Bridge

This is where neutral affirmations come in.

You don’t have to jump from negative to positive.
Sometimes the wisest move is to go from negative to neutral—and let the energy settle there until your system is ready to climb higher.

Instead of:

“I am wildly successful and free.”

Try:

• “I’m learning what freedom feels like.”
• “I’m open to believing success might be safe.”
• “I’m willing to let ease find me in small ways.”

These aren’t cop-outs. They’re stepping stones.

Neutral is the bridge.

When you're dealing with core beliefs or long-held emotional blocks, you can't strong-arm your way into a new state. You seduce your way into it. Gently. Repeatedly. With softness, patience, and truth that your whole being can actually receive.

Affirmation Check-In: Are Yours Still Aligned?

One more thing that doesn’t get talked about enough—update your affirmations as you evolve.

If you’ve been affirming for healing, and you know in your gut that you’ve turned the corner in your recovery, you don’t want to keep saying:

• “I am healing.”
• “I trust my body’s process.”

Why?
Because those affirmations still signal that you’re in process.
And if you’ve already stepped out of the “healing” phase and into the restored phase, your affirmations should reflect that.

Try something like:

• “I enjoy vibrant health every day.”
• “My body moves with ease, strength, and joy.”
• “I wake up filled with energy, power, and peace.”

These are what I call legacy affirmations—statements that affirm your arrival, not just your journey. They lock in what you’ve reclaimed.

So whether you’re healing, building, resting, or blooming, take time to make sure your affirmations are current. If they’re outdated, they might be holding the door open to a phase you’ve already outgrown.

Final Word

Affirmations aren’t about forcing a smile. They’re about finding the emotional truth you can honestly stand on today.
Some days, that truth is bright and bold.
Some days, it’s just a quiet: “I’m willing to believe it might not always feel this way.”

And that’s enough.

You don’t need to chant yourself into a lie.
You just need to start where your soul can breathe.