Saturday, May 24, 2025

Emotional Composting

A Ritual for Artists, Healers, and Seekers

You’ve been doing the inner work. Shedding old skins. Unlearning patterns. Learning to breathe again.

But nobody really tells you what to do with the leftovers—the vague, sticky feelings that hang around after you’ve had your breakthrough. The emotions that didn’t get fully named, or released, or resolved.

This is important:
If you don’t tend to that residue, it can start to calcify. And before you know it, you’re repeating cycles you swore you left behind. The truth is, growth leaves behind a mess. But that mess isn’t waste—it’s fuel.

This ritual is designed to help you move through those loose ends, so you can clear what’s standing in the way of your next creation.

It’s called Emotional Composting—and it’s a practice of presence, transmutation, and truth.

Emotional Composting: The Ritual

Use this when you feel disconnected from your flow—before you sing, write, dance, speak, or simply need to return to yourself.

What You’ll Need:

A small object you can touch—a ring, a charm, a necklace, or a smooth stone.
This becomes your activation talisman—something you twist, tap, or hold as a physical anchor for your focus. Over time, this object absorbs the energy of this practice and becomes a living reminder of your power.

Step 1: Ask the Question

Hold your talisman.
Sit quietly. With clear intention, ask:

“What is blocking my creative flow?”

Let the answer rise—no judgment. No forcing.
You may be surprised what shows up. It might not “look” creative at all. You might suddenly remember a moment from your childhood. You might feel tension. Grief. Guilt.
Just go with it. Don’t fix it—just feel it.

Step 2: Name the Energy

Name whatever showed up:

“This is fear of being seen.”
“This is anger from being dismissed.”
“This is sadness from not being chosen.”

Naming it gives it shape—and once it has a shape, you can work with it.

Step 3: Choose Your Intention

Before you begin creating, ask:

“What do I want this energy to become?”

This is your transformation point.

If it’s anger, maybe you want to turn it into clarity.
If it’s grief, maybe you want to transmute it into compassion.
If it’s disappointment, maybe you just want to let it go in love.

Say it aloud. Let your body hear it. Let the energy shift.

Step 4: Choose Your Alchemy

Pick the form of expression your body is asking for. This is your creative channel—your alchemical vehicle.

Sing into it
Move with it
Write it out
Speak it into the room
Pray it out loud
Make rhythm with your hands, your voice, your breath

Let the energy leave your body in form. Let it be messy or beautiful. Let it move.

Step 5: Close with Breath + Body Check-In

Take a deep breath.
Close your eyes.
Return to the space in your body where the energy first showed up.

How does it feel now?
Is it lighter? Sharper? Quieter? Still?
Just check in. Ask gently:
“Is there anything else you want to tell me?”

Listen. Then—release it.
Exhale. Let your breath carry it out. You’ve honored it. Now let it go.

Optional Add-On for Tarot Users:

If you use tarot, you can include your deck in this ritual.

At the beginning, fan your cards out face-down. Let them sit with you as you move through the steps.

Then at Step 5, when you’re checking in with your body, draw a single card. Ask:

Where is my energy now?
What message can I take from this experience?
What deeper truth just revealed itself?

You might pull something that perfectly reflects what you’ve felt, or something unexpected that speaks to a deeper layer you’re still unfolding. Trust that whatever comes up—it’s part of your dialogue with the unseen.

Wednesday, May 21, 2025

Finding Your True Point Of Attraction

Lately, I’ve been watching this trend online—people dressing provocatively or doing things clearly aimed at getting attention, but then they say, “I’m not doing this for attention. I’m doing it for me.” And I just have to ask… are we being honest? Because yes, you may be doing it for yourself—but what about it makes you feel good? Most often, it’s the attention. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

What bothers me isn’t the desire to be seen—it’s the way we lie to ourselves about it. If you’re recording yourself walking through crowds hoping to catch a reaction, that’s not “just for you.” That’s a setup. You’re baiting the universe for a moment of validation while claiming it doesn’t matter. That dissonance is what throws everything off.

Let’s talk about contrast. Take someone like David Lee Roth—flamboyant, extra, the human embodiment of center-stage energy. I like him, because he owns exactly who he is. He doesn’t hide the fact that he enjoys attention. He performs for it. It’s authentic, even if it’s not for everybody. That’s what makes it magnetic.

There’s a huge difference between being the center of attention and trying to be the center of attention while pretending you’re not. One is honest. One is dissonant. That dissonance? That’s what repels people. That’s what makes your energy feel confusing, even if your outfit is perfect and your timing is right.

Changing Your Point of Attraction

This is where the Law of Attraction work comes in. If you’re trying to change your point of attraction—your vibrational pull—you have to get honest about your motivations, your core wounds, and your core beliefs about yourself and the world.

If you’re not honest about who you are and what drives you, your manifestations will come in scrambled. You’ll attract things that feel mismatched—not because they are, but because you’re not being energetically honest. You’re affirming one thing while your actions, beliefs, and energy say another.

That kind of inner conflict is what creates the feeling of being stuck, stalled, or blocked. The universe doesn’t know what to do with your energy when it’s out of sync. You can’t affirm abundance while secretly believing you’re unworthy. You can’t affirm love while rejecting your desire to be seen. That contradiction becomes the real blockage.

So if you want to shift your life, change your point of attraction, and manifest more in alignment with your truth, start by owning your truth. Say what you want. Admit what lights you up. There’s nothing wrong with wanting attention. Just make sure it’s the kind that feeds your soul—not the kind that confuses your spirit.

Saturday, May 17, 2025

Sacred Pivot Points

We talk a lot about the path of manifestation like it’s a straight line.
Set your intention, do the work, stay in alignment and then you receive the blessing.

However, manifestation is rarely linear. And sometimes, even when you’ve done all the work, you find yourself somewhere that feels like failure—but is really just… a few steps off.

I always come back to a scene from The Count of Monte Cristo. In both the book and the movie, there’s a moment where a priest—who’s been tunneling his way out of prison for years—finally breaks through the wall, expecting freedom. But instead of escaping, he breaks through… into another cell.

The priest is devastated. He thinks his whole plan was a waste. But the cell he has accidentally tunneled into belongs to an experienced young sailor named Edmond Dantès. He understands direction and tells the priest, “Half your tunnel runs in the right destination.” The Priest was just a little off course. So when Edmond does his calculations, they realize they could use part of the tunnel that was already dug—they just needed to pivot slightly.

That's exactly what happens to so many of us during manifestation. You’re in your tunnel, digging faithfully, doing your part and get to a point where you realize, you’re not headed in the direction you initially mapped out. You may not be wildly off track, maybe you’re just a click or two off from heading in the right direction.

When that happens, you need someone who can offer clarity and strategy.

You need someone with an objective perspective. Someone who can step outside the trench you’ve been digging and say: “You’re closer than you think. Let’s pivot here and take advantage of everything you’ve already done.”

The real work of manifestation isn’t just intention. It’s also about being willing to adjust. Because if you’ve been tunneling for years, only to realize that you’ve been heading in the wrong direction - you haven’t wasted anything. You might be one pivot away from everything lining up.

So if you’re in that space—tired, confused, wondering how you got here—don’t give up! You’re may be just a few feet off the mark. And the good news is, there’s still time to adjust!

Monday, May 5, 2025

The Games People Play

If you’ve followed any conversations about narcissism, you might’ve noticed a theme: it all starts to sound the same after a while. That’s because narcissists rarely switch up their tactics. Whether they show up in a suit, a silk bonnet, or a social media disguise, the game is the same. Different costume, same performance.

Why They Target You

When you attract a narcissist’s attention, it’s usually for one of three reasons:

You reflect something they want – emotional depth, likability, or peace they can’t manufacture.
You’re an empath – sensitive and attuned to others, which makes you vulnerable to manipulation.
You triggered a narcissistic injury – maybe you embarrassed them, even unintentionally. Now they want payback.

They don’t show up with fangs. They arrive with curiosity and charm, studying your habits, language, friendships, even your weaknesses. At first, it may feel like admiration. But they’re gathering intel—because everything with them is strategy.

The Hidden Competition

Narcissists often envy those who are effortlessly warm, funny, or well-liked. They work hard to maintain influence, often leaning on money or manipulation to draw others in. Meanwhile, you might just be “Joe Regular”—a friendly neighbor who loves baseball and barbecues. And that burns them up.

They perform for love. You just are. And that difference drives them wild.

10 Classic Narcissist Games (and Why They Play Them)

They hate your peace. Your rest reminds them of what they can’t feel.
They enjoy disappointing you. It gives them a thrill to pull the rug from under your joy.
They hold you to impossible standards. But they won’t hold themselves to any.
They triangulate. Comparison is a weapon. They love to make you compete.
They make everything about them. Even your trauma gets rerouted to their ego.
They’re in secret competition. With everyone. But especially with you.
They dismiss your dreams. But demand applause for their every step.
They wear masks. One face for every setting, and no true identity beneath.
They never let go. Control is their form of connection.
They weaponize compliments. Flattery laced with a sting keeps you off-balance.

Examples in Real Life

Imagine being in the hospital and getting a visit from a narcissist. You expect comfort. Instead, they act jealous of the attention you’re receiving. Days later? They’ve got an illness of their own. Real or imagined, they can't let you be the center.

You ask them to grab popcorn. You’ve mentioned your favorite brand dozens of times. Still, they “forget.” You know it wasn’t an accident. The look on your face is the win.

They’re a chameleon. At work, they’re serious. At home, they’re goofy. Online, they're spiritual. Different friend groups would describe them as entirely different people—and that’s no accident.

Try leaving them, and the facade cracks. You’re no longer “special,” you’re “evil.” The tantrum begins—insults, rumors, even threats. The moment you step away, you learn just how fragile their mask really was.

Dismissive, Hypocritical, and Always the Victim

Narcissists rarely care about what matters to you. If you’re upset about a family issue, their advice might sound cold: “Just cut them off.” They don’t get that relationships matter. Unless it’s their relationship—then it’s sacred.

And don’t expect fairness. They’ll betray, criticize, even humiliate you—then expect loyalty in return. They're the ultimate hypocrites. Any concern you show gets dismissed. Any pain you express gets mocked.

Final Thought: Learn the Pattern. Walk Away Early.

Narcissists don’t evolve, they adapt. Same playbook, new disguise. That’s why survivors of narcissistic abuse often feel like they’re reading their own story when hearing someone else’s. It’s eerie how alike the experiences are.

Can we feel empathy for narcissists? Yes. But we don’t owe them access to our lives. Many are wounded, but that wound is no excuse for the wreckage they leave behind.

If you want love, peace, and connection—you’ll never find it inside a narcissist’s maze.

You only escape when you stop playing.

Sunday, May 4, 2025

Easing Through Creative Blocks

There’s a strange but consistent pattern I’ve noticed in my life: some of my deepest downloads—those “aha” moments that seem to come from nowhere—happen while I’m doing something completely ordinary. Washing dishes. Organizing a drawer. Replacing the diffuser oil. The more grounded the task, the clearer the channel.

At first, I thought it was just coincidence. But over time, I began to understand the mechanism—and it shifted how I view both creativity and healing.

What Blocks the Flow

I’ve observed that people who once had a shining creative moment—whether it brought them fame, recognition, or just a deep sense of pride—often get stuck trying to recreate it. That moment becomes the mountaintop, and they spend the rest of their journey trying to climb the same peak again.

But creativity doesn’t work that way. It’s not a trophy case—it’s a river. You can’t hold the same water twice. The more we cling to a past success, the more we dam up the flow.

What I’ve learned is this:

You won’t create that same moment again. You’re not supposed to!

Creativity lives in motion. The moment you try to repeat a moment instead of responding to the moment you’re in now, you start working from memory, not magic.

Why Grounded Tasks Unblock Creative Flow

Here’s where it gets interesting.

When you engage in simple, repetitive, embodied activities—like cleaning, folding clothes, or even watering plants—your brain shifts into a state known as the default mode network. This is the zone associated with daydreaming, intuitive insight, and subconscious processing. It’s your mind’s quiet back room where connections form and truths bubble up.

Doing something physical gives your higher self a window to whisper through.

And energetically?
Movement grounds spiritual energy.
When you tend to your space or your body, you’re telling your soul: “I’m here. I’m present. I’m ready.” And suddenly, things start to move inside you.

Let the Work Stand. Then Move On.

If you’ve ever said to yourself, “I’m not who I was when I wrote that poem” or “That used to come so easy for me”—you’re not alone. Most of us who’ve been channeling creative flow for years hit a wall at some point.

The medicine?

Let the old work stand. Honor it. Then walk away.

Put your hands in the dishwater. Scrub the sink. Fold the towel.
Let your spirit speak through the suds.

This is the paradox: when you stop trying to be creative and start being present, creativity finds you again.

The river runs not because we chase it, but because we clear the dam.