Reading for the Hawaiian Man in Grief

 

“I had a dream vision that you are carrying the weight of a lost love. Whether she has passed recently or some time ago, you are holding that grief as if it is still fresh. It lives in your body, in your spirit, in the way you move through your days.

Your loved one sees you. She looks upon your situation with compassion, not judgment. She wants you to know she is not holding you back. She does not expect you to stay bound to her memory or to keep yourself from finding love again.

But there is a truth in your present moment: the young woman who is close to you now is receiving mixed signals. On one hand, you welcome her comfort. On the other, you know deep down that your heart is not fully free to give her what she truly longs for. Though you do not mean to harm her, the space between your grief and your desire creates confusion.

I was shown that this young woman has already shown you her care. There was a moment where you left yourself vulnerable — open to being taken advantage of — and her presence offered a protective energy around you. She interceded, whether you realized it or not, and because of that your well-being was preserved. That was not the act of someone using you; it was the act of someone who cares.

That is why it is important not to play with her heart. Be honest. Walk in the integrity that defines you. Because if you remain in the middle ground — grieving one love while leaning on another — it will look and feel like games. And that is not who you are, nor the reputation you want attached to your name.

The most loving protection you can offer — to yourself, to the woman you lost, and to the young woman before you — is to honor your grief fully. Allow yourself the time and the space to mourn, without rushing or pushing yourself to “get over it.” Grief has its own seasons, and it cannot be forced.

When you have walked more of that path and your heart has healed further, you will be ready to step into love again with clarity and honesty. Then, your presence will not be divided, and your affection will not carry the shadow of loss.

This is not about denying yourself comfort, but about choosing integrity. It is about giving yourself the gift of wholeness before asking someone else to build a future with you. By doing so, you honor the woman you loved, you protect the heart of the woman who cares for you now, and you return to yourself with strength.” -  es